Oxytocin: The Illusion of Intimacy
Jun 18, 2025
“It Felt Like Love… But Was It?”
The Hormone That Bonds You to the Wrong Person and How to Break the Spell
“Is anybody out there?
Does anybody care?”
— Def Leppard, Foolin’
You feel it in your body.
That rush.
That warmth.
That soul-deep yes when he touches your skin, holds your gaze, or says just the right words.
And you think:
“This must be real.
This must be love.”
But sometimes, it’s not love.
It’s oxytocin.
Oxytocin is the hormone of bonding.
It’s released during sex, cuddling, crying, eye contact, laughter.
It’s the chemical that helps babies bond with their mothers…
and women fall for men who haven’t earned their hearts.
You’re not crazy for feeling attached.
You’re human.
You’re wired for connection.
But here’s what no one tells you that I am going to tell you now:
You can feel deeply bonded to someone who’s inconsistent.
Unavailable.
Unkind.
Oxytocin doesn’t know if he’s ghosting you.
Oxytocin doesn’t care if he only shows up when it’s convenient.
It just knows: We shared something close… I must be safe now.
But safety isn’t a hormone.
Safety is a pattern.
And if the pattern is anxiety, longing, mixed signals, or emotional whiplash,
that’s NOT intimacy.
That’s a TRAUMA BOND dressed up as chemistry.
Here’s what I tell my clients:
✨ Don’t confuse the feeling of connection with the reality of commitment.
✨ Just because your body bonded doesn’t mean your heart is home.
✨ You’re not a fool, but you might be fooling yourself.
And you’re allowed to wake up now.
To clear the spell.
To choose truth.
To wait for the kind of love that feels good after the high fades.
This is the kind of emotional and body-based truth we work with when you choose to do this deep healing and awakening journey from Shadow to Sensuality with me.
If you’re tired of bonding with men who don’t stay,
of confusing closeness with commitment,
contact me and let’s reclaim your clarity, confidence, and connection.
You don't have to keep fooling yourself. I'll help you break the spell.
Your Path To Soulmate Love Begins Here
Because waiting isn’t harmless.
It’s the slowest form of heartbreak there is.
xoxo love, Catherine
The Love Priestess
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© 2025 Catherine Josephine. The Love Priestess™. Love and Intimacy Coaching International LLC. All rights reserved. Unauthorized use or reproduction is prohibited.
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